Yes. Okay, loving cake is basically my personality. I once had an all-cake surprise party thrown by my friends for my birthday. But I get it if it’s not your thing. Historically, the act of cutting the cake together represents the couple’s first joint task as a married pair, a symbol of commitment and cooperation. Sharing the cake with guests adds another layer of meaning, symbolizing the sharing of joy and the strengthening of bonds within the community. My personal theory is that back in the day of slower photography and fewer shots, the cake cutting was one of the few built-in moments for a posed photo during the reception. It’s still a fun tradition to capture if you want.

Does It Need to Be Big Enough to Serve Everyone?

Not at all. You can go with a cute cutting cake just for the two of you. A smaller cake also lets you pick a flavor you love without worrying about the taste preferences of all your guests. Pair it with a sheet cake for serving, like a Costco half-sheet cake that costs $24.99 and serves about 48 people, and you’re all set. No, this isn’t a Costco ad, just me fangirling over affordable, tasty cake options.

You don’t have to stop at cake either. You can cut a small cake and serve whatever dessert you want. I’ve seen cookies (with a to go sleeve option) ice cream, towers of donuts, and pies made by the bride and her family. You really cannot go wrong with dessert.

Do I Really Want All My Guests Watching Me Eat Cake?

Maybe. Or maybe not. I know I would because I can’t hide my love of cake. You can do a private or unannounced cake cutting. If you want it truly private, have your guests seated for the reception while you do the cake cutting in a quieter area, like the cocktail hour space. A timeline-friendly option is to go straight from your grand entrance to cutting the cake, which works perfectly if the cake you cut is what catering is serving, so dessert is ready without delay.

How Do We Cut This Cake?

You might be surprised how often I am asked this. A wedding cake can be intimidating. I’ll help you get into a position that works for photos and guest visibility if that’s what you want. Cut into the bottom layer since the top is often saved for your one-year anniversary. Feed each other a bite or don’t, it’s totally your choice. If you have a faux cake, cut where the real cake is, as pins usually mark the spot. If your planner or caterer lets me know ahead of time, I’ll make sure you’re eating actual delicious cake and not styrofoam.