Private Vows: All the Feelings, Just for You

Private vows are perfect for couples who want their promises to stay between them, just you and your partner. These can be exchanged right after your first look or after the ceremony, and they give you space to say exactly what you want without an audience. Be ready for a quick makeup touch-up afterward.

If private vows aren’t part of the plan but you, a personal letter read during getting-ready time is a beautiful alternative. This isn’t a vow exchange, just a heartfelt note you read while you’re still apart. If you’re getting ready in separate locations, make sure the letters are exchanged before you separate for your getting-ready time.

Pro tip: Agree on when during getting ready you want to read the letters—are you both still in your pajamas, or in your formal wear? Or maybe you have your dress shirt but no jacket, your dress but not your jewelry.

Why people love private vows:

You can say exactly what you want, no filter.
You can get as emotional as you want. Cry, laugh, sob, whatever comes out.
Some religious ceremonies don’t leave room for personal vows, so this creates space for an intimate moment.

Photographing private vows or letters

I can stay close to capture every emotion, or hang back with a long lens so you have complete privacy, space permitting. I can also step away entirely and photograph details like your handwritten letters while you read.

If you’re also doing video, the audio from private vows or letter readings makes perfect narration for your wedding film, adding emotion and context that bring the story together.

Pro tip: For vows or letters, write them on paper instead of reading from your phone. Nothing breaks the magic like looking like you’re checking emails. A vow book or handwritten letter also photographs beautifully.

Both private vows and personal letters are simple ways to make your wedding feel deeply personal. Whether you share your words together or apart, I’ll be there to capture the moment without ever intruding on it.